2013: What I can see in the Bible about submission... Still learning!

This post won't be popular with some, but it is what the Bible says about  the topic and it's been weighing on my heart.  In life, God is our top priority. All things should be based on  seeking and searching His will for your life. Next is your spouse. Your spouse is only second to God, your children come after them, your career after that. Your heart should be invested in building up your spouse, talking to your spouse, being friends with your spouse. And wives, your beautiful obligation is your husband. You are to be in submission to God and to your spouse. This is the structure God set up. It may feel old-school and anti-feminist, but a woman is not suppose to do things her husband is not on board with. She is suppose to be okay with his authority. God gave man a huge responsibility and that is to protect and provide and love his wife the way God loves her, her part of the deal is to submit to her man's word. But get this, the Bible never says to only submit when your man is acting Godly, the Bible says that the extent to which a wife submits to her husband, is the extent to which she is obeying God. Nothing in the Bible at all about leaving your spouse because they don't treat you good or you just aren't in love anymore. Love is a choice, not an emotion. That is HUGE to get a hold of mentally. I always felt I only needed to submit when all was well in my relationship, and Chris was growing in the Lord. I thought to myself, "God would be on my side in this fight." Nope,  I was sinning, no matter how "right"  I am, I am outside the will of God if I am not submitting to my man.   I know it seems weird, but it is God's structure, therefore I do not question it.  I wonder how many divorces have happened because of the idea of a woman running the show and not getting her way, or putting her kids before her spouse,  or putting her career before her spouse???? When you are truly searching the heart of God, your eyes will be opened to the actuality that you are to let  your husband be your authority  second to God, it's part of God's will for the wife. There is no way around it, your spouse is second only to God. In your daily life, does your actions show that you submit and believe that your partner is second only to God?